Research shows that only about half of women consistently have a happy ending during partnered play and 9 percent have never-ever orgasmed during intercourse. Worth mentioning: The percentage of pleasure-seekers who do consistently O during sex is significantlyyyyy higher for women in same-sex relationships. Not to worry. Orgasms, she says, are simply an involuntary release of tension. Each is named for the body-part that needs to be stimulated in order for them to occur, including:. The goal, Deysach says, is to encourage people to experiment with their bodies to discover what feels best for them.

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But how often do we hear the nitty-gritty of how we can actually better understand our deepest desires and most embarrassing questions? Bustle has enlisted Vanessa Marin, a sex therapist based in San Francisco, to help us out with the details. No gender, sexual orientation, or question is off limits, and all questions remain anonymous.

Happy National Orgasm Day! Yup, July 31 is the one day of the year dedicated to praising orgasms. Although fun holidays like this one and others in the same vein—National Margarita Day, anyone? And when it comes to National Orgasm Day, the best way to celebrate is by hanging out in bed or in the kitchen, or on the living room rug, or some other inventive locale and having an experience that redefines the word "climax. Touching yourself solo can help you understand exactly what you do or don't like in a way partnered sex can't.