One of the best things about masturbation is that there's no "wrong" or "right" way to do it: as long as it feels good and helps you feel sexually connected to yourself, it doesn't really matter how you choose to masturbate. But even if you feel like you know exactly what works for you already, that doesn't mean you can't still improve the way you masturbate. Taking the time to learn how to masturbate to have stronger orgasms is a super valuable skill that can seriously improve your sex life , both solo and with a partner. Jess O'Reilly tells Bustle. However, while orgasms can certainly feel amazing, for many women, it's difficult and in some cases, impossible to reach orgasm. As such, having an orgasm shouldn't be the end-all-be-all goal of masturbation — particularly when there are many other benefits of masturbation that shouldn't be discounted. Masturbation does not have to culminate with an orgasm.